Winning and Losing

Posted: May 14, 2010 in About Me

Okay, this was something I’d posted on Facebook a year ago.

People say it’s hard to win. Yes it is, I don’t disagree. But well, according to me, losing can be much, much harder. If you’ve tried harder than you’re worth and did your best to win honestly, and then lose, it hurts infinitely more than anything else. Plus, if someone undeserving gets what you wanted(in a not-so-honest manner), it hurts sharper than a knife. Do you know how when you’re running a race and you’re coming first, how elated you feel? And how you feel when someone sticks their foot in front of you, you fall and are forced to come second? I’ll explain what I’m trying to say with a story I always tell others when they’re disappointed.

There was once a young man who had a dream. A dream he’d nurtured from childhood. He wanted to be part of the IAF(Indian Air Force). He studied hard to get what he wanted. Everyone knew he was the likeliest candidate to get selected after the two preliminary interviews. In 1958, he went to Delhi for an interview. Then he went to Dehra Dun for the interview with the Air Force Selection Board. Both the interviews went well, and he was sure he’d come out with flying colours. But, to his utter shock and disappointment,he stood ninth in the batch of 25, and eight officers were selected to be commissioned in the Air Force. The young man was not selected for the IAF. His dreams were shattered.
Disappointed at his rejection by the IAF, the man visited Rishikesh where he bathed in the Ganga and met Swami Sivananda, who asked the man about the reason for his sorrow.The young man told him about his unsuccessful attempt to join the Indian Air Force and his long-cherished desire to fly. Sivananda told him, “Accept your destiny and go ahead with your life. You are not destined to become an Air Force pilot. What you are destined to become is not revealed now but it is predetermined. Forget this failure, as it was essential to lead you to your destined path. Search, instead, for the true purpose of your existence. Become one with yourself, my son! Surrender yourself to the wish of God.”
The young man decided to heed the Swamiji’s advice. He worked harder in life. Pursued a different career field, one that he was new to. But despite all the pitfalls, his career began to rise. He began to be recognized on an international level. He is a role model for many of India’s youth today.
Guess who this young man was?
Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam. The former President of India.
(infinitely better than becoming a mundane Air Force pilot, isn’t it?)

I don’t plan to go bathe in the Ganga or anything, but I do know one thing-I’ve got way better opportunities in life. There’s much more I wanted to say, but I’ll end it with this-Somebody once told me that when one door of opportunity closes, many others open up, and sometimes you may like one of these doors more than the one you’d originally wanted.
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  1. tanisha says:

    nice!!! story….nupur!!!

  2. Ajit Sharma says:

    truly spectacular!! i love this post!! ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Madhumathi says:

    That’s a very inspirational story for me! Hairs on my stands stood up.. when u said his name as “APJ Abdul Kalam” .. I loved it. ๐Ÿ™‚ Awesome way of posting Nupur ๐Ÿ™‚

    Swami sivananda’s words are so spiritual ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Madhumathi says:

    Oops… There’s a mistake in my comment.. its not “stands” its.. “hands” ๐Ÿ˜›

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